the four patterns, in plain words.

start here

Attachment is how you bond: what you do when you want closeness, and what you do when it feels shaky. Researchers describe it with two dials, closeness worry and closeness caution. Where your dials sit makes your pattern.

Four patterns, plain words, no labels for life.

01

secure

Steady, not boring.

02

anxious

You love loud and worry quiet.

03

avoidant

Not cold. Just used to handling it alone.

04

fearful-avoidant

Come closer. No, wait. Both are real.